Vigilantism or Natural Reaction?

Read this story to understand this post.....


 Legally you can't go around beating people-even if they deserve it, but this is why his abuse should be a mitigating factor, and why more people need to think about these sorts of things and look at them in a more in depth manner:
The worst component of abuse-at least the most lasting component of it is the psychological aspect. Not just the psychological scars from the rape, or the broken trust, but the mental control, and intentional breaking down of the self by the perpetrator. The direct psychological abuse keeps happening whenever the victim is around the predator-whether or not the rape continues, and almost nobody other than the victim and the predator ever recognize the abuse-especially if the abuser is smart.
I was severely abused psychologically and emotionally abused growing up-even as an adult-by my parents, but they rarely ever did anything that, as a kid, I could point to specifically, and never in front of others. I was only about 3 years ago that I finally pulled the plug on that relationship, the head game had worked so well, that I couldn't be convinced to do it before, I was still laboring under the whole "family is the most important thing in the World" myth. It has only been recently that I had to acknowledge just how sick and evil my parents really were-I still don't want to think about just how bad they might have been. I was very fortunate to have creative outlets in my life, and a grandmother who was wonderful or I surely would have wound up dead or in prison.
The cognitive dissonance caused by the control by the abuser over the natural innocence and confidence of a young, exuberant kid creates enormous frustration and anger or rage, and especially in this day and age where it is politically incorrect to get angry, it must be held inside, where it festers and amplifies any obstacles or troubles the victim may face in life. This is a circular escalation that can infect and effect every part of of the victim's life. I doesn't go away with facing down the issue. Sometimes facing down the issue-or the abuser.
I often thought that if I had given my father the savage, yet non-fatal beating he so truly deserved when he was young enough to have it not look like elder-abuse on my part. The outcome would have probably gotten everybody therapy, and maybe me out of that house.
I just turned 40 this year. I have never been married-never even close, even thought the only thing I have ever really wanted-ever since I was old enough to remember thinking about it, is a wife, and a house, and a dog. The average duration of my romantic relationships is about 3 weeks. As soon as they get a glimpse of what they are dealing with they usually vanish into thin air. The girls that are patient enough, and caring enough to accept what I have been through can't cope with my personality. The games the psychological abuse plays with confidence and self-esteem are unbelievable. The ability to think that you have found trustworthy people who almost always turn out to be more abusers is mind-blowing. The only people who can relate to you are supremely screwed up-and often borderline dangerous if not outright psychopathic...I sleep with a gun because of the people I have met in my life, not because I am paranoid or suicidal, but because a Federal Agent recommended I do so. People keep company with people who understand and accept them-in my case, that group was the wrong one...thank God I figured that out by myself.
 I have trouble keeping the same job for very long because it involves getting to know, and dealing with people who can't ever fathom what I have had to deal with.
I have never, and plan on never harming a hair on anyone' head, and it has been nearly 15 years since I figured out that it wasn't ME that was the problem and started taking steps to deal with my abuse...but even then I didn't know exactly WHAT was making me feel the way I did.
I am not saying I agree with what this man did, I am saying that I understand, and can't really blame him.